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OT: Post Corona - What Will Change?

It was a first date. She still wanted to go, just wanted to bring the dumb dog along with her. After I said forget it, she said she'd just leave it at home, but she'd already made it obvious she was too into this pet for my liking, so I told her it wasn't really a situation I was interested in pursuing because I'm not doing dates with pets coming along. Even if it wasn't going to happen on the first date, you know it was going to be a staple on future dates.
Meanwhile, she’s thinking you’re uncaring and moved on as well.
 
Meanwhile, she’s thinking you’re uncaring and moved on as well.

Of course. You can't say anything about the dog, or even about the dog not tagging along with you, that won't insult the girl to her core. These dogs are everything. They are life.
 
It was a first date. She still wanted to go, just wanted to bring the dumb dog along with her. After I said forget it, she said she'd just leave it at home, but she'd already made it obvious she was too into this pet for my liking, so I told her it wasn't really a situation I was interested in pursuing because I'm not doing dates with pets coming along. Even if it wasn't going to happen on the first date, you know it was going to be a staple on future dates.

I don't date anymore...but I used to give everyone at least one shot. Now, you'll never know if she was magic.
 
I don't date anymore...but I used to give everyone at least one shot. Now, you'll never know if she was magic.

I used to do the whole one shot thing, but I found that I was never wrong about not being into a girl on the first impression. Actually going out with one that I wasn't super excited about ended up being a waste of time and money since I would never bother to see them again.

In my life, the magic has only happened when you're feeling the magic from the very start. I've never grown to be into someone over time.
 
I used to do the whole one shot thing, but I found that I was never wrong about not being into a girl on the first impression. Actually going out with one that I wasn't super excited about ended up being a waste of time and money since I would never bother to see them again.

In my life, the magic has only happened when you're feeling the magic from the very start. I've never grown to be into someone over time.
If it makes you feel any better, if I was into dudes I'd date the fuck out of you.
 
By the way, I fully expected my friends to give me the usual "you're too tough and picky" lecture when I told them that story, but shockingly most of them felt even stronger about it than I did. One in particular was like, "very good move, she's fucking crazy, nobody normal asks to bring a dog on a first date." Even I was like, you're being too hard on her, man. Ha.
 
I used to do the whole one shot thing, but I found that I was never wrong about not being into a girl on the first impression. Actually going out with one that I wasn't super excited about ended up being a waste of time and money since I would never bother to see them again.

In my life, the magic has only happened when you're feeling the magic from the very start. I've never grown to be into someone over time.

I think the math is on your side....I was mostly referring to online dating where you don't really know squat (good or bad) until you see them 'live'

As for wasting time and money, I used to suggest a drink...gives you the optionality of getting out fairly quickly or, if you're into them, you start ordering food and make it a night.
 
I think the math is on your side....I was mostly referring to online dating where you don't really know squat (good or bad) until you see them 'live'

As for wasting time and money, I used to suggest a drink...gives you the optionality of getting out fairly quickly or, if you're into them, you start ordering food and make it a night.

Yeah, I was referring to both. Both organic and online. You can meet someone either way, and of course get a much better take from in person, but you may be relatively on the fence still. Some stuff you like about her, but not really super into it. I've never felt that and then gone out and felt it go up that level to where I need it to be to remain interested.

And I always want to do drinks now. The danger is in having the place be somewhere that serves dinner but bailing before then. I always feel bad cutting a date short, even if I know I'm not going to ask her out again. Why did you say you don't date anymore?
 
I've been living with someone for a few years -- she would probably be upset if I started dating again.

My favourite spots for first dates were solid bars that also had a decent food menu.
 
It's a delicate thing. Sometimes it feels like the girl gets turned off by proposing to meet at say 9 pm for a drink. Like they're not good enough for dinner. But then if you meet at a more reasonable time for a drink, like 7 or 7:30, then you're basically expected to eat with them. It's very annoying trying to toe that line. Except where you're really excited about someone, then dinner AND drinks is what I want.
 
I've been living with someone for a few years -- she would probably be upset if I started dating again.

My favourite spots for first dates were solid bars that also had a decent food menu.
I used to take them to South Beach. Nice restaurant, a few drinks, walk along the beach at night, handy lifeguard station if things were going well...
 
after work drink was my move -- 5:45ish. keeps it casual for both parties....might be difficult in LA where it takes a while to get anywhere.
 
after work drink was my move -- 5:45ish. keeps it casual for both parties....might be difficult in LA where it takes a while to get anywhere.

Yeah that’s an issue on my end. I work late. It’s basically unheard of for me to take off before 7:30, and usually later.
 
Yeah, I was referring to both. Both organic and online. You can meet someone either way, and of course get a much better take from in person, but you may be relatively on the fence still. Some stuff you like about her, but not really super into it. I've never felt that and then gone out and felt it go up that level to where I need it to be to remain interested.

And I always want to do drinks now. The danger is in having the place be somewhere that serves dinner but bailing before then. I always feel bad cutting a date short, even if I know I'm not going to ask her out again. Why did you say you don't date anymore?
maybe the tag-along-dog is her screening mechanism, to weed out any potential suitors who aren't as in to pups as she is?
 
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