I didn't expect this thread, mostly because I largely kept these last 5 yrs from most people. And it's fine, David. I guess it's in my nature not show all my cards.
But yup, I lost most everything last Fri. I knew my wife Janet from age 17 in HS when I first went gaga over her, she was 16, a year behind. I asked her out 2 weeks after meeting her, and two weeks later, we actually talked about marrying someday. Who knows if we really believed it, but it felt good. I remember walking home later, thinking to myself..."Did I just say that marrying stuff?"
And we did marry some years later after living together in Edm for awhile. She went everywhere with me. We were tight almost as soon as we began together on our mutual lifetime path. I think I was lucky when I see so many other friends that were less so, in matters of the heart.
41 years growing up together. 34 of them married. The 41 meant more to us. I took her to Walking Tall, a horror wax museum and then for a cup of coffee on our first date. Asked me to a party the next night when I later took her home...this relationship got going right away. Anyway, I'm rambling ...
I have to say that she fought this ****ing cancer very well, and had 4 yrs and 7 months, most of it pretty good actually. She was an exceptional responder to treatments. Never had to take a pain killer till the last days in palliative. And she never complained throughout...that was her nature. I was with a woman that almost never complained about anything through our 41 yrs. I'm telling you guys I got lucky..The doctors gave her 6 months to a year on prognosis. She did much better. Told me in the car after hearing the bad news from the doctor....that she'd be happy if she could get 5 years. Came pretty close against huge odds as she was stage 4 to begin with.
Was just a beautiful on the inside as she was on the outside. I got lucky.
Thanks to all of you for your kind words and sentiments, it all helps.